Misery Loves Company, Know when to Excuse Yourself from the Company of Others

You will eventually learn to decline invitations to pity parties. Sometimes I listen to the plight of my colleagues. I actively listen and do not offer advice unless requested. My suggestions are oftentimes met with additional problems that results in a vicious cycle. I now excuse myself from toxic situations. We are all going through family issues, emotional issues and drama at our workplace. After a day at work, it is overwhelming to deal with the problems of friends. They do not seem to realize that it is further taxing on your already exhausted emotions. I have found that it helps to disconnect. You can remain available for one hour to communicate with others via social media, then take off your phone and recharge your emotions.

You will be of no use to yourself if you are spent all the time. Your performance at work may decline and you may even lose weight. Safe guard your emotions from vampires. They will drain you of your energy. Worst part is in your time of need, they are nowhere to be found. you have to know when to say good night and go home.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com .

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No delay in the game

How much of human life is lost in waiting? Do not wait until the timing is perfect. Proceed with your plans . Time waits on no one . Plan and execute. You have to state your intentions to the world and put it out in the universe. It will come back to you. The elements will line themselves up. Everything will fall into place. Start today,baby steps .Do not wait until the time is right. Do not wait for conditions to be favourable,just proceed and they will follow your lead. You have to guide the way ,you will become weary in waiting . Plan ,execute and repeat . Write your plans down for your records and tell your friends about it to remain accountable . Press on.

Happiness happens when you find yourself

Have you lost your individuality by confirming to the New Age ? Are you a mindless dummy walking around on your phone 24/7 ? It is easy to fit in, just follow the crowd. Are you happy ? It is pleasing to look at the little things and be grateful. The birds in the sky laugh at us,as we rush to get to our meaningless jobs ,then we rush to return home,enduring hours of traffic,each day. What kind of life is that ? I observe the people as they pass by, long faces , no joy and a general lack of zest for living . At the end of the month,after the rent is paid,the bills are covered,the bank account loses more weight. We then wait for the next salary to repeat the process. Be brave,be strong. Now is the time for innovation,follow your passion. Sometimes when you follow your dreams,you are heart broken,then you wake up and the dream is over. But if you follow your passion and listen to your heart ,if you are disappointed,you will try again. Don’t lose yourself in the crowd . Walk in the opposite direction. Make up your mind to go on a journey of self discovery. Explore yourself ,find out exactly just how likeable you are. When you find yourself,there will be a peace within you. You will be happy,when you are happy with yourself. You must be content with the person that you became. It is a hopeless quest to find happiness in someone else.

Why do people stab you in the back ? Why do they talk behind your back ?

People underestimate the importance of their backs. If you are having back pains you will have grave difficulty functioning. Your central nervous system consists of your brain and your spinal cord. Your spinal cord runs along your back. Spine injuries may render the victim cripple. I was watching the second installment of Independence Day (2016) and the alien invader was destroyed by shooting her in the back. One of the men who was fighting to save the World advised his comrades to aim for the alien’s back because that was her weakness. I took a moment to process this and I recalled that the human back is also a vulnerable area. We always lament when persons known to us say negative about us “behind our backs “. We become bitter when they “stab us in the back”, wouldn’t it hurt more to aim for our hearts ? I think not,because a broken heart can mend. But a broken back, will never be whole again. In this era of user friendly people ,we have to guard our backs. We have to watch our own backs because a friend,is a known enemy. 

Remember your training, follow the protocol then be emotional for a brief moment

Training has a major impact on our minds . A young man who was trained in the army will never be the same again. A student who receives training at Law School will analyze everything. Apart from preparing us for a career,training will impact the way that we interact with others. I saw the new Kingsman movie with my best friend and after Eggsy’s home was destroyed he became flustered. Merlin appeared and warned him to “…Remember his training,follow the doomsday protocol ,and then be emotional for a brief moment”. There was so much wisdom in that statement. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when we are faced with difficult times. We can let our emotions rule us, and not ‘feel’ to go to work. Everyone can see that we are upset or sad and this is where emotional intelligence skills are displayed. In this age of ‘unsocial media’ we may post a status or a video that we may soon regret. We have to remember our training. After that,there should be certain steps to take in the event of disappointment. This may include ‘plan B’ or it may include leaving an abusive relationship and returning to your family home. For a fleeting moment,shed a tear. Express your frustrations in a private corner and leave them there. Do not nurse the wounds from a past lover, do not nurture the hate. To do otherwise, is to plant the seeds of bitterness and resentment. This makes life appear grim and unbearable.