Misery Loves Company, Know when to Excuse Yourself from the Company of Others

You will eventually learn to decline invitations to pity parties. Sometimes I listen to the plight of my colleagues. I actively listen and do not offer advice unless requested. My suggestions are oftentimes met with additional problems that results in a vicious cycle. I now excuse myself from toxic situations. We are all going through family issues, emotional issues and drama at our workplace. After a day at work, it is overwhelming to deal with the problems of friends. They do not seem to realize that it is further taxing on your already exhausted emotions. I have found that it helps to disconnect. You can remain available for one hour to communicate with others via social media, then take off your phone and recharge your emotions.

You will be of no use to yourself if you are spent all the time. Your performance at work may decline and you may even lose weight. Safe guard your emotions from vampires. They will drain you of your energy. Worst part is in your time of need, they are nowhere to be found. you have to know when to say good night and go home.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com .

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Life is but the shipwreck of our plans

Planning to make a plans. What a life!I agree that goals are important , and yes I believe in the law of attraction . But do our plans turn out the way that we expected? Life can be messy . Relationships end,children leave the nest and sometimes our love is not reciprocated.

Enjoy the mess. Dance when your world is falling apart. Keep your head up. Stand in the rain . Don’t you give up on your dreams.

When you lose control of the ship,the anchor holds. You will be grounded and you will be on land soon.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in AML CFT Compliance .

Website : http://asydneygroup.com

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Do not let the water get inside the boat : if it does,keep your nose above the water

I listened as she explained her situation. I was sympathetic,but I told her that we were in the same boat. She was underemployed and she opined that the work felt degrading.

She knew that she could do better. Years of sacrifice and effort resulted in debt for tuition and living expenses. I told her to keep her head up. There was no shame in serving. While we are young,we ought to work to learn not earn.

We are not entitled to a dream job after graduation, we have to earn our stripes. I commended her on her successful interviews,and the subsequent employment with the company.

I advised her to do extra things with her time ,that could make extra money. Although her salary is equivalent to an entry level position ,she has to work her way up. The experience that she gains will serve her well in the future.

For those students who are graduating this year, welcome to the rat race. You will be disappointed by what the world of work has to offer to you. Be humble. You have to work to earn your dream job .

The author is a lawyer in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering Compliance.

Website :http://asydneygroup.com

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A dog is still a dog, do not try to change your partner

The things that we accept, will be the things that we regret in our partners.My neighbour’s pet dog usually comes in my yard,he chases chickens,birds,vehicles and barks at pedestrians. He only does these things away from his residence.When he is home,he sleeps inside the house,he eats dog food,and he appears well trained. As soon as he afforded the opportunity to leave his yard,he reveals his true nature. My father observed the dog eating chicken bones that we discarded and he remarked that the dog sleeps on his own couch at home,yet he is in our yard,consuming bones. I replied, “a Dog is still a dog”. It does not matter if we take the dog to the vet, or we buy brand name accessories for the dog, he is still a dog.

I considered the lives of many people who feel that they can change their romantic partner. Silly isn’t it? Maya Angelou said that when people show you who they are,believe them. Do not waste your time and energy trying to fix the perceived  flaws and imperfections on another. Invest that time in yourself. Accept people for who they show you they are. 

Are you blind to the true nature of your partner?

Open you eyes ! 

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
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There are no dead end jobs,just dead end people:It is an adventure to be alive

Today is a present. Are you alive or just living ? Bills ,bills ,bills. I wish the person who invented bills will choke on his saliva. Bills are a huge inconvenience to me. But working towards generating funds to pay these bills is fun. In the absence of he responsibility to pay bills,some people may never enter into the workforce. Nevertheless,it is a blessing to be on your way to work. Some people are not economically active. Look at it as a quest. You are on a journey to make money. Do not look at it as going to your dead end job. A wise man told me that there are “…No dead end jobs,just dead end people “. Do not resent your employer,after all  the company is paying your bills,sending your kids to school. For the entrepreneurs out there,think of your job as your investor. I encourage you to view your day as an adventure,just like something I heard in the movie Peter Pan ,the version with Robin Williams.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. See the website http://asydneygroup.com .

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You created your own misfortune by not believing in yourself

Saturday morning cartoons make me feel alive.I prepared pancakes, sausages and eggs for breakfast and I watched cartoons from the 90s. 

In the evening time,I watched an episode of Johnny Bravo,where a series of unfortunate things happened to him as he lusted after yet another woman. It could have been a heat flash,but Dionne Warwick appeared in a vision to him. She warned Johnny that his failure to believe in himself and his ability to successfully pursue the woman was the cause of his perceived bad luck.

It’s amazing where you can find inspiration. In a cartoon ,a movie,a child . Just think of it as the universe’s way of speaking to you.

Believe in yourself.Believe in your dreams.Believe in your ability to execute the project. Never give up.Trust the process.

Do not let your own doubt cause you to experience bad luck.Just believe.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad, she specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. 

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The Lunch Hour: The Real Rush Hour

How do you spend your lunch hour every day? I usually take a walk outside some days to see the working class hustle to purchase lunch. They exit their office still wearing their cardigans and sweaters and are make crucial choices. They venture to either a food court or a food establishment to decide. They look at the menus and check their purses and wallets. They take out their cellphones and idly scroll through their social media feeds. They then stand in line, wait their turn and approach the cashier and or server. Their colleagues may be at the same establishment or at another. They purchase their food and of course a drink and feel excited about their taste buds coming into contact with their purchase. The food may be consumed at the eating establishment if seats are provided or the employee may return to the office. The employee makes his way to his desk or to the lunchroom, holding the styrofoam container and beverage bottle. The smart phone is placed on the table and he or she indulges in the food.
Imagine doing this with your lunch hour everyday for the next 5 years. It is true that you are entitled to your lunch hour and you may spend it as you please. But is there a way that you can invest your lunch hour in yourself? My best friend told me that he spends his lunch time looking for lunch, everyday. He told me that he had a certain personal task to complete that would lead to significant personal development, but it was difficult to do during the working day. I suggested that he make use of his lunch hour, but he told me he was busy finding lunch.
From a financial point of view, money that could have been otherwise saved or invested is spent on purchasing lunch each day. Every time that you buy lunch, you pay with a $100 bill. By the end of the week, $500 has been spent on food for lunch alone; this does not take into consideration money spent on breakfast and dinner.
In terms of time management, an hour a day is a terrible thing to waste. I am not in anyway advocating that you work during your lunch hour for your employer. What I am suggesting is that you work on your dream during your lunch hour. Guard your time, it is your life. Every second counts. If you find that you still have a lot of work to do at the end of the working day, then consider analysing everything that you do during the day.
Reasons why I dislike buying lunch:
Food is expensive;
I do not know what ingredients are being used;
I do not know who is preparing the food;
I do not want to spend my lunch time thinking about what food to
purchase;
Regardless of the food that I consume, it will exit my body in the same manner and hopefully, colour.

A good approach is to put your food in the microwave while you use the facilities to relieve yourself. That should take about 3 minutes, then you return to the kitchen and eat for 15 minutes. Naturally, this means that you have to walk with your lunch from home. It does not have to be anything elaborate, it can be simple. You can steam broccoli and carrots in a pot and chunky veges for lunch. You can make a sandwich, pack a beverage and a snack or fruit for dessert. Whatever you consume at lunch time, will leave your body in the same manner. Then you can return to your desk and read about that idea that you conceptualized and research what has already been done on the topic. The question is now, how will you spend your lunch hour ?

About the author:

The author is a lawyer in Trinidad who specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism.

See the website:http://asydneygroup.com

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Even a broken clock is right two or three times a day

How important is it for you to always be right ? Reality flash…You may be misguided at one point or another . I was watching Disney Christmas movies and the main character told his son that even a broken clock is right two or three times everyday. There is wisdom in everything and everyone.We should view every thing as a learning experience. There are lessons to be learned from the young and the not so young. There are lessons to be learned from the insects,the animals and from children. If we close our minds to learning from others ,then we will stop living. I observe persons who have have a chronic need to display their knowledge. They appear condescending when they highlight the flawed perceptions of others. These victims are made to feel inferior and will be reluctant to express their  opinions in the future. Their egos are deflated and they feel personally attacked. Please remember that you are not always right.

No delay in the game

How much of human life is lost in waiting? Do not wait until the timing is perfect. Proceed with your plans . Time waits on no one . Plan and execute. You have to state your intentions to the world and put it out in the universe. It will come back to you. The elements will line themselves up. Everything will fall into place. Start today,baby steps .Do not wait until the time is right. Do not wait for conditions to be favourable,just proceed and they will follow your lead. You have to guide the way ,you will become weary in waiting . Plan ,execute and repeat . Write your plans down for your records and tell your friends about it to remain accountable . Press on.

The Return to innocence : The world through the eyes of a child

The children are the future. The children are awake and will not tolerate the injustices perpetuated by the adults of the day. I saw a child observing a homeless man on the streets of the capital city. The working class passed the gentleman with no concern for his plight. The adults were rushing to reach to their respective work places on time and could not be bothered by another human being.The child watched the homeless man as he lay on the cold ,hard street. Her mother encouraged her to increase her speed,as her little feet tried to match the long strides of her mother. The urban dweller smiled at the innocent child,with a heart filled with compassion. I ventured further up the street,and in a quick glance ,I noticed a secondary school girl giving a homeless man money. This particular homeless man was known to me,he camps closer to my area. I was shocked to see that he was plying his trade of begging in the capital city. He is known for using his salary for purchasing certain substances. It amazed me that the school girl ignored his addiction and was willing to help. The compassion displayed by these school children made me hopeful,that the future will be better.