Misery Loves Company, Know when to Excuse Yourself from the Company of Others

You will eventually learn to decline invitations to pity parties. Sometimes I listen to the plight of my colleagues. I actively listen and do not offer advice unless requested. My suggestions are oftentimes met with additional problems that results in a vicious cycle. I now excuse myself from toxic situations. We are all going through family issues, emotional issues and drama at our workplace. After a day at work, it is overwhelming to deal with the problems of friends. They do not seem to realize that it is further taxing on your already exhausted emotions. I have found that it helps to disconnect. You can remain available for one hour to communicate with others via social media, then take off your phone and recharge your emotions.

You will be of no use to yourself if you are spent all the time. Your performance at work may decline and you may even lose weight. Safe guard your emotions from vampires. They will drain you of your energy. Worst part is in your time of need, they are nowhere to be found. you have to know when to say good night and go home.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com .

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Go Forth and Meet your Destiny

You have to find your success. What are you passionate about ? Structure your passion with your profession. You will never work another day in your life. Money will follow. It may be hard in the early stages, but despise not the day of small beginnings. Keep your head up. The time has expired for waiting for someone else to make your dreams come true. This is your life. All failures and success in your life thus far are attributable solely to you. Find out what your strengths are. Work on your weaknesses. Become the best version of you possible. Things will fall in place. If you are single, at this time, enjoy it. Use the time to develop your skills. Get a hobby, work on a project, keep your hands busy. Ten years from now, you will laugh at the things that you endured.

Always remember that there is a younger person looking at you. You may be a role model for someone. It may  be your son, or sister or a neighbor. There will also be negative people awaiting your demise. Be determined to prove them wrong. Hold the vision, go forth and meet your destiny.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com , whats app only 868 484-7778 .

Employee Engagement: How to Maximize Productivity and make your Employees Want to Work?

What is employee engagement?
Employee engagement is based on trust, integrity, two way commitment and communication between an organisation and its staff. It is an approach that increases the chances of business success, contributing to organisational and individual performance, productivity and well-being1.
Employee Engagement from the perspective of the employees2

Imagine if an employee can wake up and be excited about going to work. Imagine if he looks forward to sharing great ideas, to working together with colleagues and accomplishing a common goal. That employee would feel as though they are a part of the organisation making a vital contribution to achieving the company’s mission.
Employee engagement is about being included fully as a member of the team, focusing on clear goals, trusted and empowered, receiving regular and constructive feedback, supported in developing new skills, thanked and recognised for achievement.
A work environment that is fair, based on mutual respect is an engaged organisation.

Employee engagement from the perspective of the Employer 3
Employee engagement is about positive attitudes and behaviours leading to improved business outcomes, in a way that they trigger and reinforce one another. Imagine an organisation that runs on employees’ knowledge and ideas to improve products and services and to promote innovation. Imagine a place where your employees can recommend the organisation to prospective employees and boast that the actions of the employer are in line with the values of the company.

Methods of Employee Engagement
Have a tea lady who walks around offering beverages, she can then return to the refrigerator and bring it;
Give employees flexi-time-whereby they can work from home on two or more days per week, for accountability they will log in and log out;
Have a snack or fruit bar full of fruits and snacks for employees to indulge in;
Ask employees about their goals and aspirations and advise them generally on how to move forward;
Show concern for employees who are experiencing difficulties when their spouse or sibling is sick i.e. compassion;
Give employees every other Friday off for personal business, the compromise is that staff will work an additional hour everyday or come in one hour early every morning.
Try to get all employees involved in activities this limits the feeling of alienation.
Employee engagement is about eliciting a deeper commitment from our employees thereby receiving fewer sick leave ,reduction in absenteeism, decreasing accident and incidents rates , limited conflicts and grievances ,and ultimately an increase in productivity 4.
References: 1-4 http://engageforsuccess.org/what-is-employee-engagement

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad , she specialises in Anti Money Laundering and the Countering of the Financing of Terrorism. See the website http://asydneygroup.com Instagram @asydneygrouptt Whatsapp 1 868 484-7778

Do not let the water get inside the boat : if it does,keep your nose above the water

I listened as she explained her situation. I was sympathetic,but I told her that we were in the same boat. She was underemployed and she opined that the work felt degrading.

She knew that she could do better. Years of sacrifice and effort resulted in debt for tuition and living expenses. I told her to keep her head up. There was no shame in serving. While we are young,we ought to work to learn not earn.

We are not entitled to a dream job after graduation, we have to earn our stripes. I commended her on her successful interviews,and the subsequent employment with the company.

I advised her to do extra things with her time ,that could make extra money. Although her salary is equivalent to an entry level position ,she has to work her way up. The experience that she gains will serve her well in the future.

For those students who are graduating this year, welcome to the rat race. You will be disappointed by what the world of work has to offer to you. Be humble. You have to work to earn your dream job .

The author is a lawyer in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering Compliance.

Website :http://asydneygroup.com

What’s app 868 484-7778

A dog is still a dog, do not try to change your partner

The things that we accept, will be the things that we regret in our partners.My neighbour’s pet dog usually comes in my yard,he chases chickens,birds,vehicles and barks at pedestrians. He only does these things away from his residence.When he is home,he sleeps inside the house,he eats dog food,and he appears well trained. As soon as he afforded the opportunity to leave his yard,he reveals his true nature. My father observed the dog eating chicken bones that we discarded and he remarked that the dog sleeps on his own couch at home,yet he is in our yard,consuming bones. I replied, “a Dog is still a dog”. It does not matter if we take the dog to the vet, or we buy brand name accessories for the dog, he is still a dog.

I considered the lives of many people who feel that they can change their romantic partner. Silly isn’t it? Maya Angelou said that when people show you who they are,believe them. Do not waste your time and energy trying to fix the perceived  flaws and imperfections on another. Invest that time in yourself. Accept people for who they show you they are. 

Are you blind to the true nature of your partner?

Open you eyes ! 

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
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There are no dead end jobs,just dead end people:It is an adventure to be alive

Today is a present. Are you alive or just living ? Bills ,bills ,bills. I wish the person who invented bills will choke on his saliva. Bills are a huge inconvenience to me. But working towards generating funds to pay these bills is fun. In the absence of he responsibility to pay bills,some people may never enter into the workforce. Nevertheless,it is a blessing to be on your way to work. Some people are not economically active. Look at it as a quest. You are on a journey to make money. Do not look at it as going to your dead end job. A wise man told me that there are “…No dead end jobs,just dead end people “. Do not resent your employer,after all  the company is paying your bills,sending your kids to school. For the entrepreneurs out there,think of your job as your investor. I encourage you to view your day as an adventure,just like something I heard in the movie Peter Pan ,the version with Robin Williams.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. See the website http://asydneygroup.com .

What’s app 1 868 484-7778

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You created your own misfortune by not believing in yourself

Saturday morning cartoons make me feel alive.I prepared pancakes, sausages and eggs for breakfast and I watched cartoons from the 90s. 

In the evening time,I watched an episode of Johnny Bravo,where a series of unfortunate things happened to him as he lusted after yet another woman. It could have been a heat flash,but Dionne Warwick appeared in a vision to him. She warned Johnny that his failure to believe in himself and his ability to successfully pursue the woman was the cause of his perceived bad luck.

It’s amazing where you can find inspiration. In a cartoon ,a movie,a child . Just think of it as the universe’s way of speaking to you.

Believe in yourself.Believe in your dreams.Believe in your ability to execute the project. Never give up.Trust the process.

Do not let your own doubt cause you to experience bad luck.Just believe.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad, she specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. 

See the website : http://asydneygroup.com

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How to deal with angry customers who insult you? A message to all those employed in the service industry and hospitality industry

I am well on my way to reading one book every week  pursuant to my new year’s resolution. This week, I am exploring “The magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz. In one chapter he narrates a  story of an irate guest at a hotel who sent a telegram to reserve a room for a single occupant but who came to the hotel clerk requesting  hotel room with double occupancy. The customer insulted the clerk threatening to have him fired and questioned his intelligence. The young clerk apologized but declared that he was merely following instructions.

The author was next in line to deal with the clerk but was pleasantly surprised when the clerk greeted him warmly. The author told the clerk that he admired the way that he dealt with the previous customer. The clerk stated that he refused to be infuriated by a customer like that, he empathised with the man and supposed that he was having marital problems and that the man used him as a scapegoat to feel superior. The clerk added that “…underneath he is  probably a nice guy, most folks are…”

The author then suggested that we remember this statement the next time someone “declares war on us. He said the best way to deal with situations like this is to let the other person say their piece, then forget about it”.

We have nothing to lose by following this approach. Instead of responding to their insults , especially for those of us who work in the service industry, it is wise to hold our tongue. There is nothing to gain by charging with bitter words. The other person may in fact be experiencing some trying times and may simply want attention. Although you may find that your minimum wage does not pay you enough to take insults, I am sure by the following week that you will forget the exchange of words.

 

 

 

 

Even a broken clock is right two or three times a day

How important is it for you to always be right ? Reality flash…You may be misguided at one point or another . I was watching Disney Christmas movies and the main character told his son that even a broken clock is right two or three times everyday. There is wisdom in everything and everyone.We should view every thing as a learning experience. There are lessons to be learned from the young and the not so young. There are lessons to be learned from the insects,the animals and from children. If we close our minds to learning from others ,then we will stop living. I observe persons who have have a chronic need to display their knowledge. They appear condescending when they highlight the flawed perceptions of others. These victims are made to feel inferior and will be reluctant to express their  opinions in the future. Their egos are deflated and they feel personally attacked. Please remember that you are not always right.

No delay in the game

How much of human life is lost in waiting? Do not wait until the timing is perfect. Proceed with your plans . Time waits on no one . Plan and execute. You have to state your intentions to the world and put it out in the universe. It will come back to you. The elements will line themselves up. Everything will fall into place. Start today,baby steps .Do not wait until the time is right. Do not wait for conditions to be favourable,just proceed and they will follow your lead. You have to guide the way ,you will become weary in waiting . Plan ,execute and repeat . Write your plans down for your records and tell your friends about it to remain accountable . Press on.