A dog is still a dog, do not try to change your partner

The things that we accept, will be the things that we regret in our partners.My neighbour’s pet dog usually comes in my yard,he chases chickens,birds,vehicles and barks at pedestrians. He only does these things away from his residence.When he is home,he sleeps inside the house,he eats dog food,and he appears well trained. As soon as he afforded the opportunity to leave his yard,he reveals his true nature. My father observed the dog eating chicken bones that we discarded and he remarked that the dog sleeps on his own couch at home,yet he is in our yard,consuming bones. I replied, “a Dog is still a dog”. It does not matter if we take the dog to the vet, or we buy brand name accessories for the dog, he is still a dog.

I considered the lives of many people who feel that they can change their romantic partner. Silly isn’t it? Maya Angelou said that when people show you who they are,believe them. Do not waste your time and energy trying to fix the perceived  flaws and imperfections on another. Invest that time in yourself. Accept people for who they show you they are. 

Are you blind to the true nature of your partner?

Open you eyes ! 

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
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There are no dead end jobs,just dead end people:It is an adventure to be alive

Today is a present. Are you alive or just living ? Bills ,bills ,bills. I wish the person who invented bills will choke on his saliva. Bills are a huge inconvenience to me. But working towards generating funds to pay these bills is fun. In the absence of he responsibility to pay bills,some people may never enter into the workforce. Nevertheless,it is a blessing to be on your way to work. Some people are not economically active. Look at it as a quest. You are on a journey to make money. Do not look at it as going to your dead end job. A wise man told me that there are “…No dead end jobs,just dead end people “. Do not resent your employer,after all  the company is paying your bills,sending your kids to school. For the entrepreneurs out there,think of your job as your investor. I encourage you to view your day as an adventure,just like something I heard in the movie Peter Pan ,the version with Robin Williams.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. See the website http://asydneygroup.com .

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Not everyone can run a Bar : Special skills are required for certain types of businesses

To succeed in business you have to be able to get into the mind of your clients. They have to see that you are on their level . They must understand you and you must understand them. I had an interesting conversation with a man who was familiar with operating a Bar. He indicated that the owner of the bar had to sit and have a drink with the patrons in order to be successful in the business. The owner of the bar had to agree to participate in card games, and outings to the beach. He explained that that there is a therapeutic element to a bar. It is the place where people come to forget their troubles temporarily. They drink and reveal all that is troubling their souls. Some patrons repeat the story everyday. A bar owner must have certain qualities in order to effectively run the bar. He must be likeable and have a smiling face. The owner or the bar tender must listen to the story of the patron,in order to understand why the patron drinks alcohol. A formidable bond must be created that will be strengthened overtime. The bar tender must listen to the patron’s problems and offer few words of advice. The goal is not to solve the patron’s problems. But to show an interest in the problems and to serve drinks as requested . 

Any person who is unable to do 50% of these things will preform poorly in business. An assessment must be conducted to determine what is required to ensure that there is a constant influx of customers. This will vary from industry to industry. But this should form a crucial part of the market research before launching into the business venture.

Please do your due diligence , lest you start a business that will not like you.

Knock, Knock, knocking on Opportunity’s door…the importance of actively pursuing your dreams

The race is not for the swift but for those who can endure. You cannot catch fish, if you do not lower the rod in the water. You can stay in the boat as long as you want, the fish will not jump into your plate. Now is the time to get up, get out and get something done in your life. Stop blaming others for the outcome of your decisions, this is your life. I am the proud guardian of 3 kittens. I have one special kitten, he has developed a system of getting my attention. The kitten has a great sense of time, he knows my bed time, he knows my departure time for work and he knows when I will return. If I leave the house and he did not anticipate that ,he sits on a pile of bricks to get a better vantage point to see my safe return. He sits outside my door on a blue mat that I bought for him. If he does not see me, he sits outside the window , where he can hear the sound of a television or music. He climbs on the rooftop to get my attention and purrs. He is always ready for the sound of the cracking of the door, when I am about to feed him. He always eats first because he is always ready for the opportunity to get my attention first. His brother and sister always eat his leftovers.

This kitten is brilliant. Instead of knocking on the door, he sleeps outside my door. He knows that I have to leave the house at some point. He makes himself comfortable on my step and he waits. How many times in life do we knock on a closed door? When we get no response, we walk away in frustration. This kitten has developed a clever system of getting what he wants. We must do the same, if we want a promotion at our job, we must actively learn what is required for the new position. Go and learn new courses, take up a new language, volunteer on the weekends to gain experience. Do not complain and take no action. If you want a boyfriend or girlfriend, become your own friend first. Discover yourself, question why you drink excessive alcohol, find out your triggers. Improve yourself, when the time is right and a partner approaches you, he or she will complement your life,not complete it.  Patience is required to wait for the opportunity to arrive, but while you wait ,you will be busy. Brother Buju Banton said that “opportunity is a scarce commodity” so you have to be prepared when it comes. The universe rewards effort. All the time and sweat that you spend perfecting your craft will return onto you seven fold. As you grow and mature, you will network and someone may open that door that you have been knocking on and invite you inside. You may be asked to provide the password to enter, this password may be a certain skill, or a different language or a certificate that you never bothered to pursue.

This is your life, so make  your bed outside the door that opens the way to the opportunity that you seek and improve yourself , while waiting for the door to open. If you become weary, sit by the window, climb on the rooftop, get the attention of the person who has to open the door for you.

Success does not change you, fame does..a tribute to Amy Winehouse, Whitney Houston and Selena Quintanilla-Perez

Dear Amy Winehouse , happy birthday. Return If Possible (Whitney Houston and Selena Quintanilla-Perez). May these musical legends rest cozy in Mother Nature. I adore all of these performers. They opened themselves up to us and shared their emotions with the world.

Whitney Houston

I stumbled upon another documentary with Whitney Houston and she stated that it became increasingly difficult for her to go outdoors as her popularity increased. She indicated that she was bombarded by fans requesting autographs and or photos. She lamented that success did not change her but her growing fame restricted her ability to go out. In my respectful view, although she appeared cheerful in some of the footage (recorded while on tour) there seemed to be in sweet pain. In order to effectively perform her classics , she had to identify with heartache and loneliness, possibly experience it. It was revealed that she had low self esteem and this was reinforced in her tumultuous marriage. She spent days away from her infant daughter while on tour , she practiced with her band non stop and she was now a public figure. She found comfort in her vice, she started consuming then she was consumed. Fame is a hell of a drug.

Amy Winehouse

Today is her birthday and I know she is smiling. In the darkness, she knew herself.She sang with soul and her beauty was raw. Her album “Back to Black” was the soundtrack of my life in 2008. Her performances were entertaining and she poured herself into her music. She loved love, but love hated her. She was peacefully bitter and the lyrics of her song reflected her tortured love life. Yet she continued singing, she indulged in love with her ┬álover but that love turned into something painful to witness. Her success was accompanied by ┬áhaunting fame that elevated her to a public figure. Her love use became the subject of articles and she was stalked by paparazzi. It was not the success that changed her, because she always suffered from an eating disorder, it was the love that fame brought. Love is a hell of a drug.

Selena Quintanilla-Perez

My dear Selena, there is none like unto thee. Your strong sense of fashion, your strong command of your vocal cords, and the way you moved your body makes this generation miss you. You lived , you loved and you infected everyone around you. You trusted those around you and your fame attracted psycopaths. These forces were responsible for your tragic  demise because you trusted people . Trust is a hell of a drug.

Rest cozy ladies.

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A.Sydney is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago. She specializes in AML/CFT/FIU/Tax Compliance, and provides Corporate Secretarial Services to local and international giants in various industries. Feel free to explore the website for her portfolio of companies and add her on social media:

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