A Woman who wants nothing cannot be bought

Success comes at a price. You either pay it now or you pay it later. Peace may come after you remove yourself from a toxic situation. Joy may come after you resign from a job where you are not valued.
In my professional capacity I have been offered inducements that could cause me to retire early.I understand that nothing is free and much will be expected in return. I usually decline these valuable gifts because I take delight in earning assets myself. Further once a gift is given with the expectation of something in return ,it now enters the realm of a transaction.
I dislike that sense of obligation that is created. The expectation  that I will be at your beck and call. I refuse to live a life with such indebtedness. I prefer to take a loan from the bank and repay the money in order to acquire the asset.That way,after I repay the loan ,the asset is mine with no strings attached. Furthermore it is an insult to me if a client tries to offer me gifts with the  expectation of services outside of our agreement. A woman who wants nothing,cannot be bought. If I want it,I will acquire it without your assistance and ill intentions

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

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Life is but the shipwreck of our plans

Planning to make a plans. What a life!I agree that goals are important , and yes I believe in the law of attraction . But do our plans turn out the way that we expected? Life can be messy . Relationships end,children leave the nest and sometimes our love is not reciprocated.

Enjoy the mess. Dance when your world is falling apart. Keep your head up. Stand in the rain . Don’t you give up on your dreams.

When you lose control of the ship,the anchor holds. You will be grounded and you will be on land soon.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in AML CFT Compliance .

Website : http://asydneygroup.com

What’s app 868 484-7778

A dog is still a dog, do not try to change your partner

The things that we accept, will be the things that we regret in our partners.My neighbour’s pet dog usually comes in my yard,he chases chickens,birds,vehicles and barks at pedestrians. He only does these things away from his residence.When he is home,he sleeps inside the house,he eats dog food,and he appears well trained. As soon as he afforded the opportunity to leave his yard,he reveals his true nature. My father observed the dog eating chicken bones that we discarded and he remarked that the dog sleeps on his own couch at home,yet he is in our yard,consuming bones. I replied, “a Dog is still a dog”. It does not matter if we take the dog to the vet, or we buy brand name accessories for the dog, he is still a dog.

I considered the lives of many people who feel that they can change their romantic partner. Silly isn’t it? Maya Angelou said that when people show you who they are,believe them. Do not waste your time and energy trying to fix the perceived  flaws and imperfections on another. Invest that time in yourself. Accept people for who they show you they are. 

Are you blind to the true nature of your partner?

Open you eyes ! 

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

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Formal Education will make you a Living; Self Education will make you a Fortune

Continued education enriches the soul. I always take time to notice my classmates whenever I undertake an additional course. These people appear to be in their forties and older and they have established careers. Within those career paths, they have selected a senior position and they pursue the course in order to have the necessary qualifications when the vacancy is advertised. That way, they are prepared for any opportunity that may arise. I recently completed a 5 day workshop and all the participants were members of amazing professions. There were 2 Marine Pilots, 2 Helicopter Pilots, 1 Civil Engineer and 1 PhD candidate. Apart from these, there were also persons from the financial sector. This was not the first workshop that they attended post graduation. They are trained annually, and are now in a position to train others. They view learning with great pleasure and actively participated in the session. Every lunch time, I sat with different classmates and asked them about their jobs. With the exception of one person, they all seemed to like it.
On one day of the workshop, we were asked to talk about the reasons why we like our jobs. One of the marine pilot stated that she liked her job, because it was exactly what she wanted do, since she was small. That is an astonishing thing for someone to accomplish. The other classmates all graduated from university, but did not stop there. They were continuing to pursue courses and one classmate was reading for her PhD. They were not working to pay bills. They were building fortunes, because they were doing what they loved and continued to sharpen their skills through continued learning. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain by investing in yourself by learning more. Many people have the same degree as you do, so you must find a way to distinguish yourself from, everybody else. Additional courses may help you to specialise in a certain field or to become an expert. Continued education may come in the form of reading books, listening to audio books, doing research, watching educational videos. Trust the process and continue to enrich your soul.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad, she specialises in Anti Money Laundering ,Countering the Financing of Terrorism and Financial Crimes. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com , Instagram @asydneygroupytt Whats app 1 868 484-7778.

What does the way you walk say about you?

I have always been teased about the way I walk. I walk quickly, I pass people by on the sidewalks as though a dog I chasing me. I am oftentimes told that I would get a speeding ticket. I simply laugh at these jokes. In response, I say that I am “on a mission”. I could be on my way to class, on my way to the office or about to meet a friend, I walk with purpose.
Increasing your walking pace by 25% was one of the confidence building exercises in the Magic of Thinking Big . The author told of the games his mother played that consisted of watching passersby and observing their walking habits. His mother advised him that there was much to learn from observing the walking habits of people. The author said that psychologists link poor posture and sluggish walking to low self confidence. Psychologists also say that our attitudes can be changed by improving our posture and by increasing our speed of movement.
The author described 3 different groups of people based on their walking patterns. The first group are the “beaten people”, they “shuffle and stumble along through their life”. The second group of people are average and so is their walk, average. The last group of people exude “superconfidence” in the words of the author. These people walk faster than average, there is a sprint in the way they walk. Their walk tells the world “ I’ve got someplace important to go, something important to do”. Moreover, it tells the onlooker that the walker will succeed at anything he is about to do. The author advised that we should “throw our shoulders back, lift up our head and walk a little faster and feel confidence grow.

The author is an Attorney at Law in Trinidad and Tobago. She is an internationally Certified Specialist in Anti Money Laundering, Countering the Financing of Terrorism and FIU Compliance. See the website http://asydneygroup.com for her portfolio of companies. Instagram @asydneygrouptt Whats app 868 484-7778 .

How to deal with angry customers who insult you? A message to all those employed in the service industry and hospitality industry

I am well on my way to reading one book every week  pursuant to my new year’s resolution. This week, I am exploring “The magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz. In one chapter he narrates a  story of an irate guest at a hotel who sent a telegram to reserve a room for a single occupant but who came to the hotel clerk requesting  hotel room with double occupancy. The customer insulted the clerk threatening to have him fired and questioned his intelligence. The young clerk apologized but declared that he was merely following instructions.

The author was next in line to deal with the clerk but was pleasantly surprised when the clerk greeted him warmly. The author told the clerk that he admired the way that he dealt with the previous customer. The clerk stated that he refused to be infuriated by a customer like that, he empathised with the man and supposed that he was having marital problems and that the man used him as a scapegoat to feel superior. The clerk added that “…underneath he is  probably a nice guy, most folks are…”

The author then suggested that we remember this statement the next time someone “declares war on us. He said the best way to deal with situations like this is to let the other person say their piece, then forget about it”.

We have nothing to lose by following this approach. Instead of responding to their insults , especially for those of us who work in the service industry, it is wise to hold our tongue. There is nothing to gain by charging with bitter words. The other person may in fact be experiencing some trying times and may simply want attention. Although you may find that your minimum wage does not pay you enough to take insults, I am sure by the following week that you will forget the exchange of words.

 

 

 

 

No delay in the game

How much of human life is lost in waiting? Do not wait until the timing is perfect. Proceed with your plans . Time waits on no one . Plan and execute. You have to state your intentions to the world and put it out in the universe. It will come back to you. The elements will line themselves up. Everything will fall into place. Start today,baby steps .Do not wait until the time is right. Do not wait for conditions to be favourable,just proceed and they will follow your lead. You have to guide the way ,you will become weary in waiting . Plan ,execute and repeat . Write your plans down for your records and tell your friends about it to remain accountable . Press on.

Why do people stab you in the back ? Why do they talk behind your back ?

People underestimate the importance of their backs. If you are having back pains you will have grave difficulty functioning. Your central nervous system consists of your brain and your spinal cord. Your spinal cord runs along your back. Spine injuries may render the victim cripple. I was watching the second installment of Independence Day (2016) and the alien invader was destroyed by shooting her in the back. One of the men who was fighting to save the World advised his comrades to aim for the alien’s back because that was her weakness. I took a moment to process this and I recalled that the human back is also a vulnerable area. We always lament when persons known to us say negative about us “behind our backs “. We become bitter when they “stab us in the back”, wouldn’t it hurt more to aim for our hearts ? I think not,because a broken heart can mend. But a broken back, will never be whole again. In this era of user friendly people ,we have to guard our backs. We have to watch our own backs because a friend,is a known enemy. 

Remember your training, follow the protocol then be emotional for a brief moment

Training has a major impact on our minds . A young man who was trained in the army will never be the same again. A student who receives training at Law School will analyze everything. Apart from preparing us for a career,training will impact the way that we interact with others. I saw the new Kingsman movie with my best friend and after Eggsy’s home was destroyed he became flustered. Merlin appeared and warned him to “…Remember his training,follow the doomsday protocol ,and then be emotional for a brief moment”. There was so much wisdom in that statement. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when we are faced with difficult times. We can let our emotions rule us, and not ‘feel’ to go to work. Everyone can see that we are upset or sad and this is where emotional intelligence skills are displayed. In this age of ‘unsocial media’ we may post a status or a video that we may soon regret. We have to remember our training. After that,there should be certain steps to take in the event of disappointment. This may include ‘plan B’ or it may include leaving an abusive relationship and returning to your family home. For a fleeting moment,shed a tear. Express your frustrations in a private corner and leave them there. Do not nurse the wounds from a past lover, do not nurture the hate. To do otherwise, is to plant the seeds of bitterness and resentment. This makes life appear grim and unbearable. 

How to achieve any goal: Take baby steps and set deadlines: Must Read

When you want something all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it according to Paulo Coelho. The power of the human spirit is amazing. We can conceive an idea, and we can bring it to pass. Everything that we consume is ultimately the product of an idea. Successful people are always thinking, they then develop their new ideas. I was introduced to the sibling of my favorite client and I was provided with a better insight into my favorite client. My favorite client is always reading and learning, he devours books and he discusses what he learned with his family. He revisits discussions 15 minutes after first introducing the topic. He emphasizes the differentiating qualities of successful people and the average man. He works like a beast of burden and is deeply passionate about his services. He is a giant in his industry but we acts like it is his first day on the job. He is fascinated by everything and he is always offering opportunities for young entrepreneurs. Before our first introduction, I was following his career and many times I expressed my interest in serving his companies in any way possible. I wanted to touch the hem of his garment as it were. If only some of his ambition could touch the contours on the palm of my hands, then I could rest at night. Then one day, he personally responded to one of my advertisements and I have been serving his companies since. I was determined to ensure that he was my client and I did not give up after being ignored. I  ensure that I have blank sheets of paper at all our meetings, because he enjoys drawing illustrations to explain his ideas to me. At one particular meeting, he explained to me how he accomplished his goals. He said “Sydney, this is how you can accomplish anything in your lifetime”…

  1. Write the goal down. He said that all intelligent people write things down with pen and paper. There is magic in seeing your goals written in your own handwriting with a plan for your future.
  2. Stick up the note with your goal in your room, possibly on a mirror or on a calendar and everyday and every night, look at it.
  3. Tell a friend or family about your goal , although some may discourage you, it renders you accountable. In the near future , you may be asked for any updates on your journey to accomplish your goal.
  4. Devote time to read daily about your goal, it can range from 15 minutes to 30 minutes per day, it can be a book or an online article.
  5. Day dream about achieving your goal, imagine all your friends congratulating you on the new house or purchasing the heavy equipment.
  6. Think about your goal all the time, there is a reserve of power in your subconscious mind. You have to think about what you want your reality to be. Instead of consuming negative news about crime and the foolishness on social media, focus on your life.
  7. Find out the technical “know hows” in achieving your goal. This may require that you take an evening course or that  you attend seminars.
  8. Get professional advice, this may be in the form of advice from an experienced accountant or from the owner of a heavy equipment rental company.
  9. Watch motivational videos everyday to be able to move on after disappointment. In pursuing your dreams , you will face opposition but you have to sail through the rough waters.
  10. Break up the goal into smaller steps that you can do every week , month or year. This way, you will not feel worn out. It is easy to get worn out when both heaven and hell are against you.
  11. Walk away from toxic people, they will drain your energy and distract you from your purpose. Leave social media periodically, those who call you are the real ones. The others are just ‘likers’ or ‘commentators’.
  12. Set reasonable deadlines to accomplish the steps that lead the way to your goal. Stick to these deadlines.
  13. Refuse to give explanations for your decisions. You do not owe anyone explanations, it is your life.
  14. Ensure that you like the person who you are becoming on your journey.
  15. Never give up
  16. Use what you have until you can do better.
  17. Do not compare your progress to others, you are not playing on the same battlefield.
  18. Be willing to help others along the way.
  19. Work hard, work must feel like a sport to you.
  20. Achieve that goal.

I trust that his advice is of use to at least one fellow human.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

A.Sydney is an attorney at law based in Trinidad and Tobago. She specializes in AML/CFT/Tax Compliance, and provides Corporate Secretarial Services. Feel free to explore the website for her portfolio of companies: http://asydneygroup.com .

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