Things Change with Near Death experiences

Before her accident, her elder sister would casually torture her. She would chase her around the yard, eat her food, and fight with her. Her elder brother would shun her.

The day after her accident, her brothers and sisters sat around her with heads looking at the floor. They purred and look on at their little sister being attended to. My neighbour cleaned the wound as I held the kitten up. The kitten, also called Mitsy, was involved in a car accident. The 4 kids from next door come across more often to check upon Mitsy. My neighbour bought a baby bottle and fed Mitsy with a bottle for 3 days straight. Mitsy’s mouth was injured in the accident, she lost teeth and as a result she could not eat. Mitsy survived. After 1 week of being cleaned, fed, taken for walks, Mitsy is almost back to her old tricks. Near death experiences can bring people together. People on the street, have passed asking whether Mitsy is feeling better. I am pleased to announce that she is up to her old tricks.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

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That Mountain is just a Grain of Sand: Mothers and their Sons: Fathers and their Daughters

I stood there searching for relief. The sun descended on the horizon and the birds fled to return home. His mother spoke to him for the first time in over a year. It was an awkward introduction, because blood was needed to ensure a surplus of blood before her surgery. Strained conversations and signs of discomfort were evident. No hugs were exchanged upon our arrival at the ward of the hospital.

Fathers love their daughters just as much as much as mothers love their sons. Admit it. That’s where we got the terms “daddy’s girl” and “mama’s boy”. There are boys with mommy issues who have grown into men with mommy issues. The same applies to girls with daddy issues and by extension women with daddy issues. This is a reality.

Forgiveness is expensive. I will not sugar coat it. It sounds good, but it is difficult to do. By forgiving, you are in effect releasing yourself from a bond that you created. The anger should leave once you forgive them. It becomes tricky when you have been thriving on the bitterness. Your soul has become a dark abyss of loneliness that you try to satisfy with meaningless encounters with women or men. These are the indicators I look for when I seek to identify a man with mommy issues or a woman with daddy issues.

I can assure you, every man has a soft spot for their mother. I am not concerned with your childhood experiences. I am saying once you see the queen of your heart on a hospital bed, and you cannot rescue her, you will forgive her. You will release the yourself from the self-inflicted hostage. My dear friend, that mountain that you created with your mother or father is a grain of sand. In the face of death approaching, a rush of emotions will overwhelm you. Embrace it.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

Eating Grapes and Watermelons

I always wear comfortable shoes because I do not know what adventure is ahead of me every time that I leave my house. I visited the emancipation village in Port pf Spain last week with my friend who is completing a Master’s Degree. He wanted to get pictures to add to his book and to see the different booths available. While there he received a phone call from his relative who was in the hospital. We left the venue and visited. My friend was required to give blood ahead of a surgery the following day for his relative.  We started talking about giving blood. The relative disclosed that her friend previously gave blood and was required to undergo a number of blood tests. The doctor was impressed with the quality of the blood. The doctor was told that the donor consumed a lot of grapes and watermelon . The doctor was impressed. That day I learned that by consuming grapes and watermelon often, your blood quality will be great.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

Take the little you have and make it work

Start where you are with what you have. Despise not the day of small beginnings. Use the little salary that you currently have to fund your dream.Dreams are expensive. Every month put aside cash to invest in your business.
Learn to cut costs,such as rent ,cell phone bills. Perform a monthly audit to see where your money goes.Then look at ways to spend less. Once the item is in good working condition do not afraid to buy it used. Try not to make excuses as to why you are not living your dreams. You cannot learn business by reading books or watching videos . You must actually start the business. Promote your business and reinvest profits in your own business.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

A Woman who wants nothing cannot be bought

Success comes at a price. You either pay it now or you pay it later. Peace may come after you remove yourself from a toxic situation. Joy may come after you resign from a job where you are not valued.
In my professional capacity I have been offered inducements that could cause me to retire early.I understand that nothing is free and much will be expected in return. I usually decline these valuable gifts because I take delight in earning assets myself. Further once a gift is given with the expectation of something in return ,it now enters the realm of a transaction.
I dislike that sense of obligation that is created. The expectation  that I will be at your beck and call. I refuse to live a life with such indebtedness. I prefer to take a loan from the bank and repay the money in order to acquire the asset.That way,after I repay the loan ,the asset is mine with no strings attached. Furthermore it is an insult to me if a client tries to offer me gifts with the  expectation of services outside of our agreement. A woman who wants nothing,cannot be bought. If I want it,I will acquire it without your assistance and ill intentions

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

Always bounce back from adversity

Your footsteps  steps are orchestrated by the universe. You may be tempted to take a right turn but all the signs are pointing left. You must rest assured that your best days are ahead of you. What’s done is done in your past.

I enjoy watching animated movies.The story line is usually the same, bad guy vs good guy ,add a positive or motivational twist then you have a hit.
I am amazed at the lenghts the bad guy goes to in order to bring down the good guys. I then wonder whether the same applies in real life.
You are focused on making your dreams a reality. Then there are the forces that rise up against you. Lies are told about you,people stop talking to you, staff steals from you. You must change your gears to perseverance. You are on a mission ,and you must accomplish it,come hell or a flood.
I watched Transylvania 3 and I observed the tricks used by the lady captain to get rid of Dracula. All of her attempts were countered when Dracula was dancing on the cruise ship with the green blub monster.The monster absorbed all the objects thrown by the captain. This way Dracula was protected. It was a reminder to me bounce back from adversary.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

You have to follow through : To leave your mark on the world

Finish what you start. Everyone must learn this lesson. There is a certain pleasure to be derived from completing that which you start. Be it a relationship, a project or a degree, finish it. Quitting is easy, Anyone can quit. It takes a certain grade of a person to continue. Life can be challenging. But do not give up. Take some time off for yourself. Take a break, but do not give up. Keep trying. Many people are critical of the new business ideas that I execute. I then ask them to show me what they have produced. Absolutely nothing. They have done nothing. Yet they criticize your efforts. Ignore them, continue trying. I have been mentoring a young man who is also an entrepreneur. He sees me twice a week. He tells me his ideas then by the following day he is executing it. He returns to tell me the progress. Some days he is happy with progress,  other days he is frustrated. But he never gives up. He has a bright future ahead of him. I enjoy sharing ideas with him, we discuss them and then follow through. It only works, if you work it. Follow through.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com

Stick with it especially when you dislike it : A message to interns

Dear Interns,

Welcome to a brief introduction to the world of work. In the next two or three years, this will be your reality: the hunt for a job. You may be engaged by a company for the summer to gain working experience: make the most of it. I remember my first internship, I ensured that I asked everyone whether they needed help. This left a positive impact on management and staff, and I was invited back to work for future summers.

Things interns should do:

1.Get to work on time daily;

2.Talk to everyone and network;

3. Offer to help staff from various departments;

4.Ask questions about everything

5.Work overtime for at least 15 minutes twice a week:

6. Save any salaries that you receive;

7.Try to find out where you fit in , in the organisation;

8. Make friends with fellow interns;

9.Remember to enjoy your summer, go to the beach, movies,parties;

10.Observe the adults who are happy with their jobs and those who are bitter.

The author is an attorney at law. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering. See website : http://asydneygroup.com.

Misery Loves Company, Know when to Excuse Yourself from the Company of Others

You will eventually learn to decline invitations to pity parties. Sometimes I listen to the plight of my colleagues. I actively listen and do not offer advice unless requested. My suggestions are oftentimes met with additional problems that results in a vicious cycle. I now excuse myself from toxic situations. We are all going through family issues, emotional issues and drama at our workplace. After a day at work, it is overwhelming to deal with the problems of friends. They do not seem to realize that it is further taxing on your already exhausted emotions. I have found that it helps to disconnect. You can remain available for one hour to communicate with others via social media, then take off your phone and recharge your emotions.

You will be of no use to yourself if you are spent all the time. Your performance at work may decline and you may even lose weight. Safe guard your emotions from vampires. They will drain you of your energy. Worst part is in your time of need, they are nowhere to be found. you have to know when to say good night and go home.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com .

Go Forth and Meet your Destiny

You have to find your success. What are you passionate about ? Structure your passion with your profession. You will never work another day in your life. Money will follow. It may be hard in the early stages, but despise not the day of small beginnings. Keep your head up. The time has expired for waiting for someone else to make your dreams come true. This is your life. All failures and success in your life thus far are attributable solely to you. Find out what your strengths are. Work on your weaknesses. Become the best version of you possible. Things will fall in place. If you are single, at this time, enjoy it. Use the time to develop your skills. Get a hobby, work on a project, keep your hands busy. Ten years from now, you will laugh at the things that you endured.

Always remember that there is a younger person looking at you. You may be a role model for someone. It may  be your son, or sister or a neighbor. There will also be negative people awaiting your demise. Be determined to prove them wrong. Hold the vision, go forth and meet your destiny.

 

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com , whats app only 868 484-7778 .