You are the author of your destination

Set your goal and pursue it. It is your life after all. If you do not like something, change it. We have limited time on earth and this time should not be used to complain. It should be used to live your best life. I looked at the rain , the droplets descended upon the blades of grass. I inhaled freedom and nature kissed me. I wanted to sing and dance in the rain.
I remembered the first time that my grandmother encouraged my siblings and I to play in the rain. We made paper boats and placed them in streams of water and cheered as they followed the course of the water. I remembered innocence and childhood well. I also remembered that I dreamed about doing the things that I do today. I smile and remember that there is still much for me to do. I also remember my days on the plantation and I vow to never work harder on the job than I do on myself.
I cannot blame anyone else for my position in life, the good and the bad are the outcome of my choices. I created my own turmoil and paradise with the changes that I made. I am grateful for the trials and tribulations that made me into the woman that I am today.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

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Cherish Advice from the elderly

I turned the corner and walked down Frederick Street that evening and heard screams of car horns. Looking ahead I noticed a Public Transportation bus was parked diagonally along the street, thereby stopping the flow of traffic. It was an unusual position to see a long vehicle in. The bus driver was outside the bus and seemed to be calling for technical help.
Drivers became irritated with the traffic and store workers watched as the agitation increased by the minute. One driver in a Nissan Tiida, was being instructed by a pedestrian to drive alongside the pavement in order to pass. It reminded me of persons in our lives who try to tell us how we should live our lives. There was a passenger next to the driver who was telling the driver that the vehicle could not fit. The passenger closed the side mirror because it was terribly close to a lamp post on the pavement as the driver attempted to move on. The driver inched and inched until he came to the realisation that he had to wait.
There was an elderly gentleman sitting in the bus looking on at the young man trying to pass the stalled bus. He shouted. “Wait son, wait, you will pass eventually”. After his third attempt to fit, the driver of the Tiida waited. At this juncture, the bus driver returned to his vehicle ,turned the key in the ignition and the bus started. The Tiida driver and the others were able to continue their journey.
I was amused by the pedestrian, who was not even a driver at that point in time who tried to tell the young man what to do. The driver was doubtful that he could fit, the passenger next to him echoed this sentiment. It was the elderly gentleman, sitting from an elevated vantage point, in the bus who was able to advise the driver that he should wait. In life , I am always slow to take advice from people. Sometimes, I ask them what they have produced or done to be in a position to tell me what to do. It turns out that they have done absolutely nothing and I therefore do not heed their words. Instead, I marvel at the elderly people with their years of wisdom and knowledge to share with the youth.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

Things Change with Near Death experiences

Before her accident, her elder sister would casually torture her. She would chase her around the yard, eat her food, and fight with her. Her elder brother would shun her.

The day after her accident, her brothers and sisters sat around her with heads looking at the floor. They purred and look on at their little sister being attended to. My neighbour cleaned the wound as I held the kitten up. The kitten, also called Mitsy, was involved in a car accident. The 4 kids from next door come across more often to check upon Mitsy. My neighbour bought a baby bottle and fed Mitsy with a bottle for 3 days straight. Mitsy’s mouth was injured in the accident, she lost teeth and as a result she could not eat. Mitsy survived. After 1 week of being cleaned, fed, taken for walks, Mitsy is almost back to her old tricks. Near death experiences can bring people together. People on the street, have passed asking whether Mitsy is feeling better. I am pleased to announce that she is up to her old tricks.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

That Mountain is just a Grain of Sand: Mothers and their Sons: Fathers and their Daughters

I stood there searching for relief. The sun descended on the horizon and the birds fled to return home. His mother spoke to him for the first time in over a year. It was an awkward introduction, because blood was needed to ensure a surplus of blood before her surgery. Strained conversations and signs of discomfort were evident. No hugs were exchanged upon our arrival at the ward of the hospital.

Fathers love their daughters just as much as much as mothers love their sons. Admit it. That’s where we got the terms “daddy’s girl” and “mama’s boy”. There are boys with mommy issues who have grown into men with mommy issues. The same applies to girls with daddy issues and by extension women with daddy issues. This is a reality.

Forgiveness is expensive. I will not sugar coat it. It sounds good, but it is difficult to do. By forgiving, you are in effect releasing yourself from a bond that you created. The anger should leave once you forgive them. It becomes tricky when you have been thriving on the bitterness. Your soul has become a dark abyss of loneliness that you try to satisfy with meaningless encounters with women or men. These are the indicators I look for when I seek to identify a man with mommy issues or a woman with daddy issues.

I can assure you, every man has a soft spot for their mother. I am not concerned with your childhood experiences. I am saying once you see the queen of your heart on a hospital bed, and you cannot rescue her, you will forgive her. You will release the yourself from the self-inflicted hostage. My dear friend, that mountain that you created with your mother or father is a grain of sand. In the face of death approaching, a rush of emotions will overwhelm you. Embrace it.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

Eating Grapes and Watermelons

I always wear comfortable shoes because I do not know what adventure is ahead of me every time that I leave my house. I visited the emancipation village in Port pf Spain last week with my friend who is completing a Master’s Degree. He wanted to get pictures to add to his book and to see the different booths available. While there he received a phone call from his relative who was in the hospital. We left the venue and visited. My friend was required to give blood ahead of a surgery the following day for his relative.  We started talking about giving blood. The relative disclosed that her friend previously gave blood and was required to undergo a number of blood tests. The doctor was impressed with the quality of the blood. The doctor was told that the donor consumed a lot of grapes and watermelon . The doctor was impressed. That day I learned that by consuming grapes and watermelon often, your blood quality will be great.

The author is an attorney at law based in Trinidad.She specialises in Anti Money Laundering and Countering the Financing of Terrorism. Website : http://asydneygroup.com.
What’s app 868 484-7778

Instagram @asydneygroup.com

Take the little you have and make it work

Start where you are with what you have. Despise not the day of small beginnings. Use the little salary that you currently have to fund your dream.Dreams are expensive. Every month put aside cash to invest in your business.
Learn to cut costs,such as rent ,cell phone bills. Perform a monthly audit to see where your money goes.Then look at ways to spend less. Once the item is in good working condition do not afraid to buy it used. Try not to make excuses as to why you are not living your dreams. You cannot learn business by reading books or watching videos . You must actually start the business. Promote your business and reinvest profits in your own business.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

A Woman who wants nothing cannot be bought

Success comes at a price. You either pay it now or you pay it later. Peace may come after you remove yourself from a toxic situation. Joy may come after you resign from a job where you are not valued.
In my professional capacity I have been offered inducements that could cause me to retire early.I understand that nothing is free and much will be expected in return. I usually decline these valuable gifts because I take delight in earning assets myself. Further once a gift is given with the expectation of something in return ,it now enters the realm of a transaction.
I dislike that sense of obligation that is created. The expectation  that I will be at your beck and call. I refuse to live a life with such indebtedness. I prefer to take a loan from the bank and repay the money in order to acquire the asset.That way,after I repay the loan ,the asset is mine with no strings attached. Furthermore it is an insult to me if a client tries to offer me gifts with the  expectation of services outside of our agreement. A woman who wants nothing,cannot be bought. If I want it,I will acquire it without your assistance and ill intentions

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

Always bounce back from adversity

Your footsteps  steps are orchestrated by the universe. You may be tempted to take a right turn but all the signs are pointing left. You must rest assured that your best days are ahead of you. What’s done is done in your past.

I enjoy watching animated movies.The story line is usually the same, bad guy vs good guy ,add a positive or motivational twist then you have a hit.
I am amazed at the lenghts the bad guy goes to in order to bring down the good guys. I then wonder whether the same applies in real life.
You are focused on making your dreams a reality. Then there are the forces that rise up against you. Lies are told about you,people stop talking to you, staff steals from you. You must change your gears to perseverance. You are on a mission ,and you must accomplish it,come hell or a flood.
I watched Transylvania 3 and I observed the tricks used by the lady captain to get rid of Dracula. All of her attempts were countered when Dracula was dancing on the cruise ship with the green blub monster.The monster absorbed all the objects thrown by the captain. This way Dracula was protected. It was a reminder to me bounce back from adversary.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad and Tobago and she specializes in Anti Money Laundering and the Financing of Terrorism . See the website http://asydneygroup.com and Instgram @asydneygrouptt WhatsApp 868 484-7778

 

You have to follow through : To leave your mark on the world

Finish what you start. Everyone must learn this lesson. There is a certain pleasure to be derived from completing that which you start. Be it a relationship, a project or a degree, finish it. Quitting is easy, Anyone can quit. It takes a certain grade of a person to continue. Life can be challenging. But do not give up. Take some time off for yourself. Take a break, but do not give up. Keep trying. Many people are critical of the new business ideas that I execute. I then ask them to show me what they have produced. Absolutely nothing. They have done nothing. Yet they criticize your efforts. Ignore them, continue trying. I have been mentoring a young man who is also an entrepreneur. He sees me twice a week. He tells me his ideas then by the following day he is executing it. He returns to tell me the progress. Some days he is happy with progress,  other days he is frustrated. But he never gives up. He has a bright future ahead of him. I enjoy sharing ideas with him, we discuss them and then follow through. It only works, if you work it. Follow through.

The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com

Stick with it especially when you dislike it : A message to interns

Dear Interns,

Welcome to a brief introduction to the world of work. In the next two or three years, this will be your reality: the hunt for a job. You may be engaged by a company for the summer to gain working experience: make the most of it. I remember my first internship, I ensured that I asked everyone whether they needed help. This left a positive impact on management and staff, and I was invited back to work for future summers.

Things interns should do:

1.Get to work on time daily;

2.Talk to everyone and network;

3. Offer to help staff from various departments;

4.Ask questions about everything

5.Work overtime for at least 15 minutes twice a week:

6. Save any salaries that you receive;

7.Try to find out where you fit in , in the organisation;

8. Make friends with fellow interns;

9.Remember to enjoy your summer, go to the beach, movies,parties;

10.Observe the adults who are happy with their jobs and those who are bitter.

The author is an attorney at law. She specializes in Anti Money Laundering. See website : http://asydneygroup.com.