You will eventually learn to decline invitations to pity parties. Sometimes I listen to the plight of my colleagues. I actively listen and do not offer advice unless requested. My suggestions are oftentimes met with additional problems that results in a vicious cycle. I now excuse myself from toxic situations. We are all going through family issues, emotional issues and drama at our workplace. After a day at work, it is overwhelming to deal with the problems of friends. They do not seem to realize that it is further taxing on your already exhausted emotions. I have found that it helps to disconnect. You can remain available for one hour to communicate with others via social media, then take off your phone and recharge your emotions.
You will be of no use to yourself if you are spent all the time. Your performance at work may decline and you may even lose weight. Safe guard your emotions from vampires. They will drain you of your energy. Worst part is in your time of need, they are nowhere to be found. you have to know when to say good night and go home.
The author is an attorney at law in Trinidad. She specialises in Anti Money Laundering. See the website : http://asydneygroup.com .