Knock, Knock, knocking on Opportunity’s door…the importance of actively pursuing your dreams

The race is not for the swift but for those who can endure. You cannot catch fish, if you do not lower the rod in the water. You can stay in the boat as long as you want, the fish will not jump into your plate. Now is the time to get up, get out and get something done in your life. Stop blaming others for the outcome of your decisions, this is your life. I am the proud guardian of 3 kittens. I have one special kitten, he has developed a system of getting my attention. The kitten has a great sense of time, he knows my bed time, he knows my departure time for work and he knows when I will return. If I leave the house and he did not anticipate that ,he sits on a pile of bricks to get a better vantage point to see my safe return. He sits outside my door on a blue mat that I bought for him. If he does not see me, he sits outside the window , where he can hear the sound of a television or music. He climbs on the rooftop to get my attention and purrs. He is always ready for the sound of the cracking of the door, when I am about to feed him. He always eats first because he is always ready for the opportunity to get my attention first. His brother and sister always eat his leftovers.

This kitten is brilliant. Instead of knocking on the door, he sleeps outside my door. He knows that I have to leave the house at some point. He makes himself comfortable on my step and he waits. How many times in life do we knock on a closed door? When we get no response, we walk away in frustration. This kitten has developed a clever system of getting what he wants. We must do the same, if we want a promotion at our job, we must actively learn what is required for the new position. Go and learn new courses, take up a new language, volunteer on the weekends to gain experience. Do not complain and take no action. If you want a boyfriend or girlfriend, become your own friend first. Discover yourself, question why you drink excessive alcohol, find out your triggers. Improve yourself, when the time is right and a partner approaches you, he or she will complement your life,not complete it.  Patience is required to wait for the opportunity to arrive, but while you wait ,you will be busy. Brother Buju Banton said that “opportunity is a scarce commodity” so you have to be prepared when it comes. The universe rewards effort. All the time and sweat that you spend perfecting your craft will return onto you seven fold. As you grow and mature, you will network and someone may open that door that you have been knocking on and invite you inside. You may be asked to provide the password to enter, this password may be a certain skill, or a different language or a certificate that you never bothered to pursue.

This is your life, so make  your bed outside the door that opens the way to the opportunity that you seek and improve yourself , while waiting for the door to open. If you become weary, sit by the window, climb on the rooftop, get the attention of the person who has to open the door for you.


Get rid of toxic people : Say NO to Narcissists 

Pursuing your dream is a full time job. You will get discouraged, and you will be disappointed. Sleep will be your enemy and you will always be preoccupied. There is no room in your life for toxic people. I sit and I observe everyone around me and I have gradually distanced myself from toxic people. I am no longer available to entertain your pity party or to inflate your ego. In this age of unsocial media, narcissism reveals its ugly head. Selfies flood my timelines and I observe patrons at parties recording themselves having a good time. I witnessed individuals trying to alter their reality to portray a different image of themselves online. Unsocial media has promoted narcissists and they are everywhere. There are situations where you cannot avoid contact with toxic people but if you can, please delete them from your life.

 How to spot a toxic person:

1. They spread negativity-these people always see the bad in every situation and talk about it. They take the fun out of everything, and you should stay far away from them. 

2. They criticize you and others-nothing ever reaches their high standards. They think so highly of themselves that everyone else is inferior to them.

3.They are jealous-they do not take delight in the success of others. They always assume that others became wealthy by ill-gotten gains. 

4.Everything is always dramatic-these people are magnets for drama. They tell you about their problems and you become exhausted by trying to help. Shortly thereafter, they find themselves in another predicament. You cannot afford to fix people’s problems and then cry yourself to sleep. At some point,people have to solve their own problems. 

5.They play the victim-sometimes they engineer an entire story and assume the role of the victim. 

6.They are self-centred-they deny you the chance to speak, everything is always about them. They always cut across you and do not listen to your opinion. 

Free yourself.

Success does not change you, fame does..a tribute to Amy Winehouse, Whitney Houston and Selena Quintanilla-Perez

Dear Amy Winehouse , happy birthday. Return If Possible (Whitney Houston and Selena Quintanilla-Perez). May these musical legends rest cozy in Mother Nature. I adore all of these performers. They opened themselves up to us and shared their emotions with the world.

Whitney Houston

I stumbled upon another documentary with Whitney Houston and she stated that it became increasingly difficult for her to go outdoors as her popularity increased. She indicated that she was bombarded by fans requesting autographs and or photos. She lamented that success did not change her but her growing fame restricted her ability to go out. In my respectful view, although she appeared cheerful in some of the footage (recorded while on tour) there seemed to be in sweet pain. In order to effectively perform her classics , she had to identify with heartache and loneliness, possibly experience it. It was revealed that she had low self esteem and this was reinforced in her tumultuous marriage. She spent days away from her infant daughter while on tour , she practiced with her band non stop and she was now a public figure. She found comfort in her vice, she started consuming then she was consumed. Fame is a hell of a drug.

Amy Winehouse

Today is her birthday and I know she is smiling. In the darkness, she knew herself.She sang with soul and her beauty was raw. Her album “Back to Black” was the soundtrack of my life in 2008. Her performances were entertaining and she poured herself into her music. She loved love, but love hated her. She was peacefully bitter and the lyrics of her song reflected her tortured love life. Yet she continued singing, she indulged in love with her  lover but that love turned into something painful to witness. Her success was accompanied by  haunting fame that elevated her to a public figure. Her love use became the subject of articles and she was stalked by paparazzi. It was not the success that changed her, because she always suffered from an eating disorder, it was the love that fame brought. Love is a hell of a drug.

Selena Quintanilla-Perez

My dear Selena, there is none like unto thee. Your strong sense of fashion, your strong command of your vocal cords, and the way you moved your body makes this generation miss you. You lived , you loved and you infected everyone around you. You trusted those around you and your fame attracted psycopaths. These forces were responsible for your tragic  demise because you trusted people . Trust is a hell of a drug.

Rest cozy ladies.

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I love doubles. For my international readers, “doubles” is a common street food in Trinidad and Tobago. It consists of  two baras (flat fried bread) filled with curry channa (curried chick peas). Extra condiments can be added for taste as well as sauces. My favourite doubles vendor sells in Curepe and I visit weekly to indulge in the delicacy. I enjoy eating the doubles standing and I usually make conversation wit the other people eating. I was devouring my third doubles and I could not get enough. I noticed a man who appeared to be homeless approaching the doubles vendor. He wore trousers without a shirt and he had no shoes. He said “Jared…Jared”, the doubles vendor who was collecting cash said “Yes. Mr Williams”. At this time I was considering buying another doubles, then Jared told the homeless man to stand to the right with the other customers who were eating doubles standing and he will be served. The homeless man complied and received his doubles. He stood there and ate his doubles, he watched me and I watched him. I was quietly impressed with the turn of events. I am used to seeing food vendors chase away homeless persons from their establishments. This time, the doubles vendors were indifferent to the financial standing of the homeless man.

Imagine a world where we respected everyone regardless of their race, sexuality or political affiliations. Imagine a world where we treated homeless persons with dignity and  kindly refused when they asked us for money. Instead we curse them and advise them to get jobs when they ask for donations. The doubles vendors displayed great professionalism in referring to the homeless man by his name, and then serving him in the same line as everyone else. There was no unequal treatment, no discrimination and I am sure the homeless man was able to hold on to his dignity.



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