HOW to stop worrying, enjoy your brief existence in this realm

The good book of fairytales teaches us that his eyes are on the sparrow. Animals  do not work,yet they are sustained. I have never seen a bird begging bread. We make ourselves sick  with worry. We worry about worrying,then we escape our dreadful realities by consuming intoxicating substances. Unfortunately, we still have to deal with our realities when the smoke clears . A better approach is to face the problem directly . There is no need to worry after you deal with the source of your worry. The immortal Mr. Dale Carnegie warned that worrying destroys your ability to concentrate. Our ability to make good decisions may be impaired when we are consumed with worry.

Tips to stop worrying:

1.Analyse the situation.

Here you will ascertain whether the situation is beyond your control. If this is the case,you can try to gradually remove yourself from a situation that is dangerous to your health . On the other hand,if the problem is something than you can have control over , consider the worst case scenario.

2. Reconciliation and acceptance

Once you consider the worst case scenario, you are heading in the right direction. Think about the absolute worst thing that can arise from your situation, embrace it and accept it. This will put put a dent in your tendency to worry and be easily excitable. You will feel a peace in the depths of your once troubled soul. You will realise that there is an opportunity in your problem.

3. View the situation objectively .

Remember to withdraw your emotional investment in the situation. Carefully consider all angles , and think of all persons involved.

4.Determine whether you can improve on the worst case scenario.

Write 5 possible solutions to your problem. Take a walk , free your mind of the problem for at least 15 minutes, then return to solving your problem.

In essence,you will stop worrying, once you deal with your problem.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

A.Sydney is an attorney at law by profession in Trinidad and Tobago. She specializes in AML/CFT/FIU  Compliance, Taxation and provides Corporate Secretarial Services. Kindly explore the website for her portfolio of companies: http://asydneygroup.com .

 

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There is a time to Reverse and a time to Drive: The Beema that stalled…

If you fail to change your gears,you will blow your transmission.I observed a BMW X5 approaching the intersection and then it remained motionless. The headlights were still ignited , so I did not suspect that the vehicle shut down. Other cars approached the BMW and waited briefly before taking over. No hazard lights were used by the driver of the BMW to signal that he was having difficulties. None of the motorists stopped to offer assistance, so I left the window and told my dad that the BMW stopped in the intersection outside our residence. My dad cracked the door and stared , he was giggling. He was surprised that the transmission was crying. The car sounded like a Datsun 120Y. My dad informed me that the driver was having a hard time shifting into drive. Prior to stalling ,the driver attempted to reverse ,he succeeded,but he was unable to shift the gears back into drive.  He mashed the accelerator and the engine roared,but the vehicle did not move an inch. His problem was his failure to change into the appropriate gear. I returned to the window to investigate whether the driver of the BMW was offered any assistance. He was still trying to go forward,while using the wrong gear. I stood and I reflected on human nature and the inability of the driver to progress because he did not recognize his error in a timely fashion.

Lesson Learnt:

Failure to shift into the appropriate gear will spoil your transmission. Many of us go through life repeating our mistakes without recognizing our errors. It is foolish to not know the appropriate gear for the desired outcome. There are different seasons in our  lives and we have to adapt with the changes. More importantly, we have to know what is required of us at the particular juncture. The larger picture is that a vehicle is still a vehicle,regardless of the country of origin. At some point in time, the vehicle may cease to function as well as it once did. The vehicle is still subject to the elements of the weather. It will still require fuel from a service station to work. We ought not to get caught up and  think that we are superior to others because we are operating machinery from various parts of the world.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

A.Sydney is an attorney at law by profession in Trinidad and Tobago. She specializes in AML/CFT/FIU  Compliance, Taxation and provides Corporate Secretarial Services. Kindly explore the website for her portfolio of companies: http://asydneygroup.com .

 

Hold on to your vision: It will guide you through the wilderness

Life is cold,hard and without pity. Yet, I close my eyes and I still see visions. My greatest strength and my greatest weakness is my ability to see things as they could be. I can see the potential for  great structures where dilapidated buildings stand. Your vision is basically the ultimate goal that you set for yourself. You must know what you are working towards. This will help to you to cope with the challenges ahead. When you are unable to go to parties because you have to study for exams ,your vision will comfort you. Your vision will cushion any disappointments that life will throw at you. You will remain calm in the midst of the storm when you have a vision for your life. It is imperative that you know where you are going in life. Set goals for yourself and stick to them. If you don’t ,no one else will. Anything can happen, set huge goals. When you tell your friends and family about your goals, they must tell you that it cannot be done. Blow their minds. Challenge yourself . Dream big. Set a high standard for yourself. Give yourself a time limit to accomplish your goals. Since Rome wasn’t built in a day, do a little bit everyday. Work harder on your goals than you do on your job. Don’t get distracted by the distractions. This is your life and you are responsible for your choices.Are you the person that you always wanted to be? If not, decide who you want to be. Take five minutes out your busy day and daydream about your future. See yourself as the person you want to be. Your imagination will be of great assistance to you. When you get that vision, hold on to it,like your life depends on it. Your vision will wake you up in the morning. Your vision will wish you sweet dreams at night. When the opposition comes against you, hold your peace and hold on to your vision.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

A.Sydney is an attorney at law by profession in Trinidad and Tobago. She specializes in AML/CFT/FIU  Compliance, Taxation and provides Corporate Secretarial Services. Kindly explore the website for her portfolio of companies: http://asydneygroup.com .

 

Struggling to Show  off: Young professionals ruin their  future by pretending to be rich & happy online

I have a problem with spending money before I physically have it. I do not own a purse or wallet. I am not sure what I would do with a purse, do I store receipts in it? Maybe I can collect coins and store it in a purse. Have you ever calculated how much money you require daily to survive? This is where a budget will assist you. You will make a list of your expenses and any monies that you have to collect. The trick is to limit your expenses. Brian Tracy, in his infinite wisdom, discussed Parkinsons Law . This law states that your expenditure will rise to meet your income throughout your earning years. The unfortunate result is that many will retire poor. To promote wealth accumulation,we must resist the urge to incur additional expenses to keep up appearances. According to Brian Tracy, it matters not how much we earn, instead,the amount we save and eventually invest will separate the masses. As young professionals,launching our career, it is tempting to create the impression that we are succeeding. However, seasoned business veterans will know that  to be successful , you must lose before you win. It alarmed me that many of my colleagues with no experience in running a business ,started their law practices. I think that within the next ten years they will see the fruits of their labour. At this juncture,the market is saturated with established law firms, specialist lawyers and unscrupulous persons pretending to be lawyers. Clients are not willing to pay lawyer fees yet they all want lawyers to do their matters. I see the plight of my colleagues as their purposes are being frustrated by a lack of cash flow from low clients. For this reason, I have found that it is not yet profitable to practice law as a young sole practitioner in Trinidad. The clients have no respect for the  lawyers’ time,advice or expertise. When the lawyers are not paid by clients  ,we cannot pay the rent for our decorated offices, we cannot pay our insurance, our vehicles may be repossessed for failure to make the monthly installments. Imagine that all of this is coupled with a young attorney trying to get a start on life after at least five years of intense studying. In an effort to appear to be successful imagine if this attorney takes a loan to purchase a car. After paying rent for an office that free loading clients visit and after making the car payments,the young hungry attorney eats salt biscuits and sardines regularly. This is quintessential of Parkinson’s law applied to young lawyers. There are also young lawyers who are employed by firms but they are underpaid and overworked.They are extremely unhappy and I lament that they are subject to such treatment.These same young professionals post pictures on social media that creates an illusion of grandeur. I pity their need for self aggrandizement as I know the true state of facts. I am yet to see snaps or stories of supermarket shopping or the preparation of a decent meal. Maybe food is prepared for my hungry friends at an unknown location. The effect of all of this showing off online is a new class of the young broke professionals. We go to dinners at restaurants that we cannot afford then order the cheapest appetizer on the menu.We go to events that we cannot pay for upfront and incur additional expenses by buying clothes and shoes . All of this we do to impress our equally broke friends . As we grow in our professions and we age we will be doing the same thing. We will take mortgages in areas that are above our salary. We will resent our career  ,go to a job that we hate, to pay for a car that was not in our pay grade from day one. Not to mention children will be added to the equation and of course they will be sent to private schools. We will have spouses who are struggling to show off just as much as we are…then of course comes the divorce and the battle for custody of the kids… naturally. By this time our lives will be in shambles. Our houses will be foreclosed upon and we will return to live with our parents. Then we will have mid life crises and realise that we wasted our lives keeping up appearances. We will regret failing to work on our relationships and marriages instead of posting pictures that made us appear  to be happy and successful online